In the world of dating, there's a lot of information about negative signs to watch for potential problems, but it's just as important to recognize the positive signs that indicate the relationship has potential.
According to Jessica Small, a marriage counselor and therapist at Growing Self Counseling & Coaching in Denver, has four positive signs to look for when determining if a relationship has the potential to last long term.
Here are four positive signs to watch for, according to Jessica Small :
1. Clear and consistent communication
Clear and consistent communication is key to building trust and determining if a person is trustworthy.
2. Information sharing is relevant
The second positive sign is relevant information sharing.
It is important to share enough information so that your potential partner can get to know and understand you, but it is also important not to be excessive. Too much information can be intimidating and can scare off a potential partner.
“When someone is able to share enough information about themselves that you feel like you get to know and understand them over time, but you're still curious to know more, that's a good sign,” she says.
Mentioning your ex isn't a bad thing in and of itself, Jessica Small says, but it shouldn't dominate the conversation. The same goes for anything you share about past relationships.
“If a potential partner asks you what happened in your last relationship on the first day, you might say, “We broke up,”” she says. “On the second date, if the topic comes up again, you can add some additional information, but keep it simple.”
“The beginning of a relationship is about building trust and determining if this person deserves to know the ins and outs of your life,” she says.
3. Shared values and interests
When you share the same interests or a similar belief system, it can strengthen your connection with your potential partner. It can also make it easier to communicate and understand each other.
“Sharing the same interests or belief system is an important part of a successful relationship,” says Jessica Small.
4. Respecting boundaries
“A positive sign is when a potential partner is considerate and aware of your boundaries, asks for clarification about them when they are not clear,” she says.
When you express your boundaries, a potential partner should respect and consider them. It is important to be careful of those who do not respect your boundaries, as this can have a negative impact on your emotional and physical well-being.
If you don't stand up for your boundaries, it can lead to increased anxiety, stress, anger and even depression. You may also feel uncomfortable or vulnerable in certain situations, which can affect your self-confidence and your ability to function effectively.
It is therefore important to take steps to protect your boundaries when you are around people who do not respect them. This can include clearly communicating your boundaries, setting consequences if they are violated, and modifying your environment to avoid situations that make you uncomfortable.
It is important to remember that you have the right to set and maintain your boundaries, and no one should force you to cross them. If someone does not respect your boundaries, it may be a sign of disrespect or lack of control, and it may be helpful to reassess your relationship with that person and take steps to protect yourself.
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