A study issued by the Society for Personality and Social Psychology says that avoiding relationship drama is the key to happiness. So it seems that a single person can continue staying single and being happy too. But everything depends on each person’s temperament.
Moreover, if people avoid relationship-related conflicts, they can be cheerful, either on their own, as being single, or involved in a romantic affair.
On the other hand, some of those who are romantically unattached relieve themselves from a significant stress-related hot spot. However, perhaps they shouldn’t disregard at all costs a potential romantic involvement with their significant half.
Moreover, Patrick Markey, professor of psychology at Villanova University, Pennsylvania, believed that men were the ones who would be the most benefited from forming a couple. However, he admitted that each and every one’s genetic material is the most significant factor.
New Zealand-based psychology doctoral candidate at the University of New Auckland, and leader of the study, Yuthika Girme, said that single people could have satisfying lives, even though it was generally believed that being in a relationship was more beneficial.
A research-oriented survey, which analyzed 4,000 New Zealand residents, pointed out that people who avoided relationship disagreements were simply happy on their own, in comparison to how other people were involved in romantic affairs. Anxiety could derive from relationship conflicts and staying single for some people was an essential element towards happiness.
The study respondents were aged 18 to 94 years of age, with one fifth being single in that period, and some involved in long-lasting relationships of approximately 22 years.
Even though previous research had revealed staying single was bad for one’s psyche, the new study showed that high avoidance goals may work for some people when they are single. The concept of “avoidance goal” applies to people who try as hard as they can not to get involved with relationship dissatisfaction, such as relationship-centered conflicts. However, these so-called goals could damage the single person’s health when one is actually involved in a relationship, correlating with negative memories, anxiety and loneliness.
The “single” status of people is increasing, as some prefer to pursue their careers. The high-divorce rate is another factor. Moreover, 51 percent of American adults are currently single. Being single in Western countries could be considered a “thing” nowadays.
In contrast to the “avoidance social goals”, the “approach social goals” were also taken into consideration by Girme’s team. The latter ones represent the balancing of one’s relationship, where communication and intimacy play a key role.
Girme finally pointed out that those with approach social goals are inclined to suffer the most when they are single, even if they are the ones of whom the best outcomes are to be expected.
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