It's so exhausting, isn't it? Like a black liquid that fills your whole body and makes you wonder if you will ever feel normal again.
Sometimes it lasts a day. Sometimes two. Sometimes it's a bad month or a bad year. Sometimes it's because someone broke your heart. Sometimes it's just because it's winter and it's dark all the time. Sometimes it's because your friend just got a promotion at work or had an incredible success, and you're still sitting there wanting to feel happy for them, but end up panicking that you can't let go and feel happy for them.
Then you feel even more horrible because what kind of person are you if you can't feel happy for a friend?
But whether it's because of a friend's success, your grief or for no reason at all – and whether it lasts for one, three or 236 days, you're not the first person to feel this way and you won't be the last.
I wish I could write a list. A step-by-step guide to exactly what you need to do to stop feeling miserable.
But I can't, because that's not how unhappiness works.
There are things you can do to try to brighten up your day & make your home more comfortable, do things that make you feel less lonely, and find ways to help you keep your head above water until you get out of that hole. But there is no trick to simply getting rid of the unhappiness, to put out the flame in an instant.
But what you can do in the meantime is to be kind to yourself.
And being kind to yourself means many different things. It means doing everything in your power to stay comfortable and healthy – getting enough sleep, taking time to rest when needed, taking walks, eating well, leaning on loved ones when things are really tough.
But being kind to yourself, especially when you are unhappy, can also mean being hard on yourself.
Refuse to wallow. Get out of bed and go to work, no matter how cold or dark it is outside, no matter how sad you feel inside. Force yourself to exercise, even if it's the last thing you want to do, even if it's just walking outside for fifteen minutes. Take your friends to spend time with you, even when you just want to hide under the covers and be alone& because you know, deep down, that what you really need is the company of people who love you.
You can make these things more difficult when you are unhappy. You have to be strong, you have to take care of yourself. You have to tell yourself that you are strong, again and again, every day, even if you don't believe it. You have to keep going, you have to keep going.
The people who overcame difficulties before you were not better than you, or stronger than you, or less unhappy than you. They felt weak and sad – just like you. But they kept going.
You are not wrong to be unhappy. You are not a monster or a failure.
You are not lazy or attention seeking. You are a person. And when you are a person, you sometimes experience painful, almost paralyzing episodes of sadness. Sometimes there is a reason for this, sometimes not.
But you have to remember that you are human, that you are okay, that you don't have to be ashamed of feeling this way. You have to be kind to yourself, you have to be kind enough to be hard on yourself. And most importantly, you have to remember that you are not alone, you are never alone, and that is exactly what connects you to everyone else in this world.
Feeling unhappy is a normal experience and part of the spectrum of human emotions. However, there are actions you can take to help you feel better when you are unhappy.
Here are some suggestions:
1. Accept and acknowledge your emotions:
It is important to accept and acknowledge your emotions, including sadness, anger, frustration or any other emotion you feel. Do not judge yourself for what you are feeling, as it is normal to have negative emotions from time to time.
2. Express your emotions:
It can be helpful to express your emotions in a healthy and constructive way. Talk to a trusted friend, family member or mental health professional. You can also write in a journal, draw, paint or find other creative ways to express your feelings.
3. Take care of yourself:
Take care of your physical well-being by making sure you eat a balanced diet, exercise regularly and get enough sleep. Also take care of your emotional well-being by engaging in activities that you enjoy and relax, such as meditation, reading, music, or any other hobby that gives you pleasure.
4. Seek support:
It is important not to hesitate to seek support from people you trust. Talking to a friend, family member, counsellor or therapist can help you express your feelings, get advice and receive support.
5. Focus on the positive:
Try to focus on the positive aspects of your life, no matter how small. Cultivating gratitude by writing down what you are grateful for each day can also help you develop a more positive outlook.
6. Practice self-compassion:
Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion. Avoid judging or blaming yourself for how you feel. Give yourself time and space to heal and care for yourself.
7. Seek professional help:
If you are feeling deeply unhappy and it is affecting your daily life in a significant way, it may be beneficial to consult a mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist, for additional support and professional advice.
Remember that the process of feeling better may be different for each person and may take time. Be patient with yourself and don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it.
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- Then you feel even more horrible because what kind of person are you if you can't feel happy for a friend?
- But I can't, because that's not how unhappiness works.
- But what you can do in the meantime is to be kind to yourself.
- But being kind to yourself, especially when you are unhappy, can also mean being hard on yourself.
- You are not wrong to be unhappy. You are not a monster or a failure.
- 1. Accept and acknowledge your emotions:
- 2. Express your emotions:
- 3. Take care of yourself:
- 4. Seek support:
- 5. Focus on the positive:
- 6. Practice self-compassion:
- 7. Seek professional help: