If you're in love, sleeping in a different bed from your partner surely sounds crazy or a crazy idea. In fact, sleeping “apart” from your boyfriend is associated with the idea that something is wrong in the relationship. This is starting to change and more and more couples are deciding to sleep in separate beds.
The rise of sleep divorce
The origins of sleeping in the same bed lie in the matrimonial duty to share the bed for the purpose of procreative sex. Because of this idea, over the years, the belief that people who love each other sleep together has taken hold culturally, an idea that necessarily shouldn't.
Your sleeping needs and habits don't necessarily have to be the same as your partner's. At bedtime, we may have very different routines that ultimately affect sleep quality. Sleeping badly and not resting produces harmful effects that we carry with us through the rest of the day, such as drowsiness, concentration problems, irritability and mood changes.
As a couple, we share the daily grind. If one of us doesn't sleep or rest well, how will he treat his partner, how will he be able to empathize? If we're irritable, it won't be good at all. At the end of the day, being able to sleep separately means being able to feel free and respected within the relationship.
Advantages of sleeping in separate beds
Improves sleep quality
In a study developed by the University of Nuremberg, it is shown how the sleep problems of one member of a couple can also become those of the other party.
For example, one person's snoring may be particularly annoying and reduce the other's quality of rest. The same study also revealed that if one partner has trouble sleeping, over time, so will the other.
Rest is greater when sleeping alone than when accompanied. This doesn't affect when the other person turns or moves, or if one is warmer than the other. If you're also worried about losing your security and privacy as a couple by sleeping separately, one option is to keep both beds in the same room.
If there's more rest, our moods will improve too, and that will make living together easier. There will be fewer arguments, we'll be better at resolving conflicts and we'll be much more empathetic and affectionate with our partner.
We associate sex with bed, so it seems that if we don't sleep together, the couple's carnal relations will be affected. According to a study carried out in the UK, 38% of British couples who took the decision to go to their own bed after sharing it, said their relationships had improved.
Ultimately, by sleeping in separate beds and breaking the “routine” of sleeping together, that feeling of missing each other arises and, as a result, increases erotic desire and improves the couple's relationship.
The most important thing, if you finally decide to proceed with a sleeping divorce with your partner, is that both parties are in agreement and that neither feels it as a betrayal.
26% of those surveyed said they sleep better alone, and 9% admitted to sleeping in separate bedrooms. According to the same survey, nearly 2 out of 10 Americans said the ideal home is one with two separate master bedrooms.
According to a study by the U.S.-based Better Sleep Council, sleeping apart solves sleep problems. The report found that 63% of couples don't sleep together most of the night.
This is known as sleep divorce (bedroom divorce), and according to various studies and specialists, it's an approach that occurs more frequently among couples who want to sleep better. Spending the night together is an almost automatic practice, but deciding to sleep in different beds has more benefits for your relationship than you might think.
If you're in love, sleeping in a different bed from your partner probably sounds crazy or a crazy idea. In fact, sleeping “apart” from your boyfriend is associated with the idea that something is wrong in the relationship. This is starting to change and more and more couples are deciding to sleep in separate beds.
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